Saturday, May 26, 2007
THE PERFECT ESSAY OF FRIENDSHIP(in my opinion:))
pls read. xie le:)
As George Washington once said, “True friendship is a plant of slow growth.” You must cultivate it to make sure it will become a successful friendship.What makes a good and bad friendship? In my opinion, friends are those who stick with you no matter who you are, what you are, through hardships, depression and failure.
In good friendships, friends will give you space. Even when you give up everything, drop to your deepest sorrows, or even just want to be alone, your friend will stick by you, guiding you to find your way out, understanding when to let you be alone, and when to cheer you up. Even when you start edging away from her, she will not pull you back forcing you to be with her. Rather, she will allow you to have space, gently reminding you occasionally with small deeds that she will forever be there to support you.
Friends are those who are loyal. As quoted from Elizabeth Bowen “proximity was their support; like walls after an earthquake they could fall no further for they had fallen against each other.” She will be your support through life, will stay with you when you are down to comfort you, and she will share your joy when you succeed. She sticks through all the ups and downs of life, even over long distances, and continues being your friend even when you are so hurt. Even when both of you have gone your separate ways, she will still stick by you till the very end.
Friends are those you can trust. Pitya Patel once said “With a person I trust I can tell her all my problems without anyone knowing. I can tell her all secrets like a secret diary.” With a true friend, you can not only trust her with your secrets, but also yours and your family’s lives. With her you do not feel awkward to tell her your deepest secrets, knowing that she would never betray you.
As Alban Goodier once said, “A friend is one who comes in when the world has gone out.” She shows you the true meaning of friendship when all the rest of the world has gone out. She helps you get up when you fall. She shows you that not everyone has given up on you, and that she is still there to support you, to let you persevere on. She does not gloat at your failure, and does not feel jealous at your success.
Friends are those who are frank with you, and show you a true and real image of your life, even if that means to put your friendship at stake. She tells you your wrongs in a tactful manner, without hurting you, not blurting out your faults as if reciting. She guides you to improve, and does not scrutinize you. “Friends have come to an agreement. You put up with her idiosyncrasies and I’ll put up with yours.” She accepts your faults with an open mind, and yet at the same time tells you to improve yourself. She brings iut the best in you. With both of your differing strengths, the friendship becomes almost invincible.
True friends know when to help you and how to help you. She knows exactly when to come to your rescue and when you need to be alone. In fact, she is willing just to sit by you and listen to you, without any comments on the issue. She is willing to have fun with you to forget all your troubles, and she will sit by you when you need help. She will dry your tears when you are sad, and cry with you when you are joyful. She knows when she needs to come to you, even over long distances, she will call you to make sure you are feeling alright. She will go all the way when you need help, without any complains or remarks.
However, if all these come from only one party, then this is considered as a bad friendship. In my opinion, a bad friendship is where the interests for each other are different.
If one befriends another for security, then this is not a true friendship, because you join out of fear, and not of true feelings. Though respect is vital in a true friendship, it is not respect out of fear. Moreover, if your friend sees you as a tool to succeed in her doings, then this is not friendship, because she looks down upon you and does not respect you. Friendship require equal footing and standing, and not of fear or security.
A bad friend is one who is jealous of all your successes, and gloats at your failures. She pulls you down when she fails, because she does not want you to succeed. This is a bad friendship, because it is unhealthy and she does not allow you to improve yourself and does not help you to succeed.
A bad friend is also one who forces you to change yourself for her sake. As quoted from Merle Shain,” Friends are people who help you be more yourself, more the person you intend to be.” If you have to change yourself for your “friend”, then she is not your true friend, because only a true friend will accept you for who you are, and not fault you for it. Moreover, true friends change you to become better, however, if that friend changes you to be someone worse, then it is a bad friendship, because she is not accepting you for who you are, rather, she is changing you to become worse.
Also, friendships are not for materialistic gains. If you get into a friendship, because you want to be popular, this is not a good friendship, because you never had the feelings of friendship. Friendships are not motivated by personal pleasure, but by the mutual true feelings and goodwill.
Oprah Winfrey once said “ Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” A good friend is one who sticks by you through thick and thin, while a bad friendship is one where you have to change yourself for the sake of her. In conclusion, I believe that a friendship requires a two-way relationship, and not one of personal gains.
i wrote this!!!
if anyone wants any other quotes, pls feel free to ask me.
i have a whole book!
lala.
ms poon swore in front of us.
nice one.
wadeva. let's see.
i'm starting to dislike some of my peers' sttitude to band.
wat with the
"i wanna quit band bcos there's no cca points."
why do u join a cca for cca points???
"i very scared ms sia scold me!" (not pointing my finger at anyobdy ah!)
"my marks drop bcos of band!"
"they dun give us enough rest time. other sschools all have breaks leh!"
seriously, playing instrument u really have to practise everyday,
that's why there's band everyday.
and they obviously think getting mr ong and ms sia here is very cheap.
as if they haven got nothing better to do than come here.
they come, they are sacrificing precious time that they can have doing other more useful stuff lor!
i love saxy section cos no one has that kind of ridiculous attitude.
As George Washington once said, “True friendship is a plant of slow growth.” You must cultivate it to make sure it will become a successful friendship.What makes a good and bad friendship? In my opinion, friends are those who stick with you no matter who you are, what you are, through hardships, depression and failure.
In good friendships, friends will give you space. Even when you give up everything, drop to your deepest sorrows, or even just want to be alone, your friend will stick by you, guiding you to find your way out, understanding when to let you be alone, and when to cheer you up. Even when you start edging away from her, she will not pull you back forcing you to be with her. Rather, she will allow you to have space, gently reminding you occasionally with small deeds that she will forever be there to support you.
Friends are those who are loyal. As quoted from Elizabeth Bowen “proximity was their support; like walls after an earthquake they could fall no further for they had fallen against each other.” She will be your support through life, will stay with you when you are down to comfort you, and she will share your joy when you succeed. She sticks through all the ups and downs of life, even over long distances, and continues being your friend even when you are so hurt. Even when both of you have gone your separate ways, she will still stick by you till the very end.
Friends are those you can trust. Pitya Patel once said “With a person I trust I can tell her all my problems without anyone knowing. I can tell her all secrets like a secret diary.” With a true friend, you can not only trust her with your secrets, but also yours and your family’s lives. With her you do not feel awkward to tell her your deepest secrets, knowing that she would never betray you.
As Alban Goodier once said, “A friend is one who comes in when the world has gone out.” She shows you the true meaning of friendship when all the rest of the world has gone out. She helps you get up when you fall. She shows you that not everyone has given up on you, and that she is still there to support you, to let you persevere on. She does not gloat at your failure, and does not feel jealous at your success.
Friends are those who are frank with you, and show you a true and real image of your life, even if that means to put your friendship at stake. She tells you your wrongs in a tactful manner, without hurting you, not blurting out your faults as if reciting. She guides you to improve, and does not scrutinize you. “Friends have come to an agreement. You put up with her idiosyncrasies and I’ll put up with yours.” She accepts your faults with an open mind, and yet at the same time tells you to improve yourself. She brings iut the best in you. With both of your differing strengths, the friendship becomes almost invincible.
True friends know when to help you and how to help you. She knows exactly when to come to your rescue and when you need to be alone. In fact, she is willing just to sit by you and listen to you, without any comments on the issue. She is willing to have fun with you to forget all your troubles, and she will sit by you when you need help. She will dry your tears when you are sad, and cry with you when you are joyful. She knows when she needs to come to you, even over long distances, she will call you to make sure you are feeling alright. She will go all the way when you need help, without any complains or remarks.
However, if all these come from only one party, then this is considered as a bad friendship. In my opinion, a bad friendship is where the interests for each other are different.
If one befriends another for security, then this is not a true friendship, because you join out of fear, and not of true feelings. Though respect is vital in a true friendship, it is not respect out of fear. Moreover, if your friend sees you as a tool to succeed in her doings, then this is not friendship, because she looks down upon you and does not respect you. Friendship require equal footing and standing, and not of fear or security.
A bad friend is one who is jealous of all your successes, and gloats at your failures. She pulls you down when she fails, because she does not want you to succeed. This is a bad friendship, because it is unhealthy and she does not allow you to improve yourself and does not help you to succeed.
A bad friend is also one who forces you to change yourself for her sake. As quoted from Merle Shain,” Friends are people who help you be more yourself, more the person you intend to be.” If you have to change yourself for your “friend”, then she is not your true friend, because only a true friend will accept you for who you are, and not fault you for it. Moreover, true friends change you to become better, however, if that friend changes you to be someone worse, then it is a bad friendship, because she is not accepting you for who you are, rather, she is changing you to become worse.
Also, friendships are not for materialistic gains. If you get into a friendship, because you want to be popular, this is not a good friendship, because you never had the feelings of friendship. Friendships are not motivated by personal pleasure, but by the mutual true feelings and goodwill.
Oprah Winfrey once said “ Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” A good friend is one who sticks by you through thick and thin, while a bad friendship is one where you have to change yourself for the sake of her. In conclusion, I believe that a friendship requires a two-way relationship, and not one of personal gains.
i wrote this!!!
if anyone wants any other quotes, pls feel free to ask me.
i have a whole book!
lala.
ms poon swore in front of us.
nice one.
wadeva. let's see.
i'm starting to dislike some of my peers' sttitude to band.
wat with the
"i wanna quit band bcos there's no cca points."
why do u join a cca for cca points???
"i very scared ms sia scold me!" (not pointing my finger at anyobdy ah!)
"my marks drop bcos of band!"
"they dun give us enough rest time. other sschools all have breaks leh!"
seriously, playing instrument u really have to practise everyday,
that's why there's band everyday.
and they obviously think getting mr ong and ms sia here is very cheap.
as if they haven got nothing better to do than come here.
they come, they are sacrificing precious time that they can have doing other more useful stuff lor!
i love saxy section cos no one has that kind of ridiculous attitude.
what did i do so wrong that you had to leave me alone ... at 5/26/2007
0 people in the crowd heard my words
0 people in the crowd heard my words